Have you ever worked with a client or someone you never should’ve worked with in the first place?
It’s almost imposible to get anything positive out of the situation. For either of you.
On a good day you’re left feeling mentally & emotionally drained.
It’s ridiculous! Why do we do it? Why do we insist on working with the people we know are not a right fit for our styles and beliefs.
I started my own business because I chose to not deal with the people I didn’t like anymore. I started my own business because, frankly, I want to do whatever I want.
That means working:
- whenever I choose
- where ever I choose
- with only the people that leave me feeling jazzed, inspired, and empowered.
I’m pretty sure those are your reasons too. So why do anything that challenges those?
There’s a reason I’m writing this post now. This morning I fully refunded and parted ways with a client . A client I should’ve never worked with in the first place. I knew we weren’t a good fit for each other from the very start, but I ignored my intuition.
Because despite the reasons listed above, my desire to help is always stronger.
Many times that desire blinds me to the obvious, and I bet it does the same for you. Actually, it doesn’t blind me at all. I can almost always see the red flashing lights screaming NO! NO! NO! This will never work for either of you!, and I ingnored those lights while interviewing this particular client.
But it hurts to say no, right? You feel guilty turning anyone away. It doesn’t feel like helping. It feels like being an ass. People don’t like asses.
How to be an ass people like
Saying no might be the most important skill you can learn in business. Saying no to the clients you know aren’t right for you makes you stronger. Maybe not so much physically, but mentally and spiritually. You’re in the business of helping people because you care about them as much as you care about yourself, and they need you on your A-game.
Say no. Even if it means you feel like an ass for a day. Working with the wrong people will only suck the desire and inspiration from you. That doesn’t help you or ANY of your clients, present and future.
Feeling like as ass for a day is the most helpful thing you can do for the person who’s completely wrong for you.
So be an ass and live to save the world another day.